Previously, I wrote about Amanda being love scammed. She fell for some China dude who she met on an online dating website. He claimed to be an investment banker and she wired money to him for investments. Unfortunately, it was all a ploy to cheat her of her hardearned money.
Amanda wrote about her experience. Others reached out to share their own love scam experiences. Joanne previously shared what she went through with me. She lost over $100,000/- to a love scam. Needless to say, it was very devastating. My heart goes out to these women.
What these ladies had in common was – desperation. No matter how confident they portrayed themselves to be, the lack of attention from men made them crave love. They accepted anyone remotely decent who showed the slightest bit of interest and let down all their defences.
We have the responsibility to protect ourselves while dating. Nobody else will do it for us; certainly not the love scammers! Before opening ourselves and our hearts wide to somebody, we need to be sure that their intentions are sincere and genuine. Being vulnerable is fine but it has to be to the right person.
Would you be vulnerable to a rapist? I guess that answers your question. Desperation causes us to act in ways detrimental to our well being. Sure, we all want love. But love always comes naturally, especially when we aren’t actively seeking just to fill an empty space in our lives.
I hope this helps women to protect themselves a little better.
Wishing you fun,