The body positive community says that fat people are oppressed and encounter weight stigma everywhere. Fat people miss out on job opportunities, they receive lower wages than their healthy weight counterparts, they receive poorer service quality and they find it difficult to date.
I spoke about the job opportunities, lower wages and poorer service quality before. Today, I’ll tackle the dating bit. I do acknowledge that it’s a lot harder for fat people to find a date and they face rejection a lot more often than those of a healthy weight. They’re frequently insulted about their appearance and have to put up with disrespect.
I don’t agree with the way some douches treat them. If they’re not attracted to fat people, let them down nicely. Even if they need to mention that it’s due to their weight, it’s fine. What is unacceptable is calling them all sorts of demeaning names and downright humiliating them.
On the flip-side, there’re times when the fat people reveal the very reason they find it so difficult to score dates. They have ridiculously high standards when they themselves can’t bring as much to the table. Asking to be treated with respect as a human being is 1 thing (and that’s reasonable). Demanding the skies when they aren’t that much of a catch is quite another.
There’re reasons the hot dudes and dudettes that these fat people want to date won’t consider them. Like what I stated in the entry about my fat exes, our lifestyles just didn’t gel. Eventually, I felt trapped in a relationship and life I didn’t want. It was then that I wrote off dating fat men.
The same goes for fat women. Yes, it seems insulting to them that they have to lower their standards. But they need to do some self-examination. What else can they bring to the table, besides their looks? What can they do to encourage attraction from the opposite sex?
Food for thought.
Wishing you fun,